The thing about grief is… it’s a beautifully universal human experience (not just a human experience actually, animals experience it too. I watched People of the Forest 15 years ago and it still stays with me). Every human being experiences loss, some more than others, and everyone experiences it differently. But it’s a given – with life there is loss. It’s painful and confusing, horrible and beautiful and pretty much everything in between.
It's interesting that such a common experience is wrapped in confusion and uncertainty. I’m asked quite often when working with grief if the person is grieving “the right way”, often feeling like somehow they aren’t – because it hurts, because it’s confusing, because it STILL hurts, because sometimes it’s not there at all, because people say you should be devastated and maybe you’re not. I think it’s past time we drop the idea of what grief is supposed to look like.
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